Prove Them Wrong

Some thoughts on motivation.

Kristen Walters
2 min readMay 15, 2024
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When it comes to motivation, I’ve observed three types:

  1. Positive — wanting to change or achieve a goal because it will directly benefit your life.
  2. Negative — taking action out of fear or spite (aka. to prove someone wrong.)
  3. Nihilistic — failing to act because you feel like nothing matters.

Most people cycle in and out of these three forms at various times.

In a perfect world, we’d primarily be motivated by the positive.

You’d eat better and exercise more because it improves your health or makes you feel more attractive.

If this works for you, that’s great.

However, in my experience, it’s rare — especially if I’ve fallen into a nihilistic or depressed head space.

Just do this thing and you’re life will improve.

Ok, sure.

This doesn’t move me to action.

But you know what does?

Negative motivation.

You don’t think I can do it?

Watch me.

You want to break up?